I have talked to a lot of crossdressers in my time here at LDW and I noticed a pattern: a lot tend to crossdress, then purge. Why does this happen? Well after doing a deep dive – I have found out this is why:
Guilt and Crossdressing
I usually get that guilt plays a major factor in why clothes, heels, wigs etc get tossed out. “I should be a man” or “Society says I shouldn’t be this way”. Whatever the message in their mind is – is what can sometimes win. Guilt – I always found – is like that nagging voice in your head that isn’t always real. The monster mind. The mind that never shuts the fuck up. And it makes you feel bad for stuff you enjoy when, in reality, you’re not hurting anyone.
Other factors:
Relationships and Crossdressing
Some that are in marriages or relationships often find their girls are not really into them crossdressing. This is tricky. While women can wear pants and corporate suits, men are shunned for wearing women’s clothes. Why is this? I often scratch my head. In various parts the world, skirts are acceptable on a man. If you look back in history – you’ll find men wore makeup, heels and various effeminate articles of clothing. Think of the Enlightenment period in Europe.
I’m Not a Woman, I’m a Man – What am I Doing?
Yes, the old “But I’m a man!” shtick. The thing is, you were attracted to wearing women’s clothes – feel more at home wearing women’s clothes and over feel more like yourself dressing this way. Maybe you’re really not a man? But within the layers of your pink, frilly soul and psyche – you were always a woman. I tend to think that we can sometimes let our genitals lead fashion choices which doesn’t make any sense. A man – whether it be a cowboy, a construction worker or the iconic Marlboro man – was always a man and never gave a thought to putting on silky pink panties.
So the question is – why are you?
I Look Ridiculous in Women’s Clothes
Do you though? Have you seen some women out there in women’s clothes who are built like a line backer? What about the ones who are carrying a little extra weight in the wrong places? Do you think every woman on the planet looks – well – like a woman? To me, the answer is – you are who you feel you are in your mind. What I feel like men see are their muscles and height and think they look terrible in a skirt. Was it the right kind of skirt though? Were the colors right for you? These are things to consider.
What Other Things Keep YOU Purging?
So if you are a crossdresser and you are always tossing out your clothes – why? Is it any of the reasons I listed above? Or is there something I missed saying in this post? If anyone is looking for any guidance at all – I say – don’t toss out your clothes. Keep them. Make sure you always have it hidden away if that makes you feel comfortable but keep them around because as you probably know by now – it’s a part of who you are!
Now for those of you looking to talk to me online – I’m on discord now under LDWAngelica so make sure to add me so we can do text sessions, etc.
See you then! Or call me for a session when you see me available.
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Mistress Angelica
Indeed Mistress Angelica, the “Scourge of the Purge” which has probably been the experience of most of us. The myriad of reasons we do it and the reasons we ditch our duds are as varied as the various choices of beautiful ensembles we drape ourselves in. My belief is, crossdressing is forever. We are wired that way. Guilt, of course weighs heavily on our fondness of frills…(what on earth would the guys on the team say?).
In my case, (I’m not sure I’ve shared this yet in a Mistress’ blog post) but I was careless and got caught after keeping my silky secret for years. It wasn’t pleasant. Certainly not the first spouse to act like a louse (or maybe FEEL like one for my secret dalliances) I quickly ditched several totes of beautiful belongings I had acquired through the years. But as I said earlier crossdressing is forever, and after finding one remaining tote I had missed, acted like every (maybe) crossdresser who has purged, to begin anew. Despite several persons (family and friends) learning of my secret, and receiving welcomed and unexpected support, I have not denied myself and have started replenishing my previously discarded dresses and the like. Classic purge replace…purge? No, not this time. I suppose I shall hide my guilt as I do my wardrobe. Thank you Mistress Angelica…I hope you don’t mind me being verbose….(I do have a bit of a reputation around here for being a bit of a chatterbox!🤭)
What one resists persists.
TRUE!
Ah, so well said, little peg. I’m glad you have replenished!