There’s a particular kind of electricity in not knowing that when you meet someone and can’t quite place the way they hold themselves, the quiet confidence or the subtle yielding in their energy. You start to wonder: are they the one who takes control, or the one who melts into it?
It’s rarely as obvious as people think. Dominance and submission aren’t costumes people wear -they’re currents that run underneath behavior, revealed in flickers rather than declarations. If you’re paying attention – the signs are everywhere. I’ve become quite good at spotting who is submissive especially.
The Way They Choose
Start with how they make decisions. A dominant leaning person often moves through choices with a natural sense of direction. They don’t necessarily bulldoze, but they guide. “Let’s go here,” they’ll say, already anticipating what you might enjoy. There’s a quiet assurance in the way they take the lead, not asking for permission so much as inviting you to follow. It feels less like control and more like gravity. Sexually speaking for me – once I know your kinks – it really is easy to take the lead over you.
Someone with a submissive edge tends to open space rather than fill it. They’ll ask what you prefer, not out of indecision, but because they’re attuned to you. Their pleasure often lives in responsiveness -in the way they lean into another Dominant’s structure. There’s a softness there, but it’s not weakness. It’s intentional and sometimes incredibly powerful.
What Their Body Reveals
Watch their body language. Dominance often shows up in stillness. A steady gaze that lingers just a second too long. Movements that are deliberate, unhurried, as if they already own the moment. They don’t fidget much because they don’t need to. Their presence does the talking. Also how they dress – it’s very confident and strong! And sexy. Because they want to mesmerize you.
Submission can be more fluid. It’s in the tilt of the head, the way someone reacts rather than initiates. A quick glance to read your expression. A subtle shift closer when you take the lead. There’s a responsiveness that feels almost like a dance with one that follows, but with awareness and intention. But really – it’s a lot in the eyes too. I notice subs can always keep eye contact long unless they are told to. I’ve been known to say – you will look into my eyes and become entranced with Me. Oh yes. It’s a thing. It will make you take that strap on deeper, make you want to wear that chastity longer…
How They Speak
Then there’s communication. Obviously what I do here at LDW is strictly communication for the most part. A dominant personality often speaks in statements. Even their questions feel grounded, purposeful. They’re comfortable setting boundaries, expressing desires, and holding space for intensity. They don’t shy away from tension and sometimes, they create it.
A submissive personality often communicates with nuance. They hint, suggest, invite. Their words may be softer, but listen closely and there’s honesty there, and often a deep emotional intelligence. True submissive really are emotionally intelligent. They’re reading the room, reading you, adjusting in real time.
Their Relationship With Tension
The most telling sign is how they respond to tension between you.
A dominant person will step into that space of tension. They’ll hold eye contact, maybe lean in, letting the moment stretch without breaking it. They’re comfortable with that edge. I personally love that edge!
A submissive person might soften into it. Their energy shifts, becoming more receptive, more attuned to what you do next. They don’t necessarily retreat – instead, they wait, allowing you to define the direction of that tension. This can lead to subspace that people often try to achieve.
Obviously – these signs I talk of above are usually in a public setting or getting to know people for the first time. On the phone, I’m able to usually pick up how submissive someone is by how they communicate.
Are you submissive? If so – in what way? How do you view being submissive?
Mistress Angelica
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